Is it really more fun in the Philippines? The Attitude That’s Damaging Filipinos

I recently read an article about the main problems that hinder most Filipinos, It featured four main problems, which are; 1. The “Bahala Na” attitude, 2.they ride the bandwagon often, 3.Because we do not think, and 4.Some values we receive as children , These may seem like harsh, hurtful words, but as the saying goes “the truth,hurts”.

WHICH IS WORSE?

Now I won’t tackle all of those four, if I did, I could write a whole book on the subject, so I asked myself, among the four, which is more terrifying? but first let me explain what and why I did not choose the other three.

Number 2: We ride the bandwagon often– first and foremost this is not a big problem, people naturally go for what’s viral and what’s “in”, however yes it may set our beloved country as mere copycats, but hey! who isn’t?

Number 3:Because we do not think– This is just another reference to how Filipinos lack a sense of global uniqueness, I was pretty pissed off when I read the article, but what’s been said, has been said, An example of it is the annual Metro Manila Film Festival. Ilda had written an old but a very provocative article about this topic. (sorry for the minor plagiarism on that last sentence.)

Number 4: Some values we receive as children – I can’t argue with this, there are some negative values, Pinoy’s are exposed to as children, that greatly affect’s our lives as adults, here’s a link for a list of those “negative values“, I chose not to tackle this even if it’s a major topic, that can greatly help the Filipino’s if corrected, because (i’m planning to create a whole segment of posts around this topic.)

WHAT IS THE TOP POISON AMONG THE FOUR?

What I believe is something that we should eliminate in our country, is the viral disease of attitude called “BAHALA NA”, whatever happens, happens, now I chose this because of two major reasons:

#1: IT FORCES US TO NOT ACT– when a person says “Bahala Na” (whatever happens, happens.) what he’s really saying is “I no longer have the desire to know what to do, and how to do it, so I will just be content whit whatever comes.” you get into this crippled mental state, and what’s worse is when we say “Bahala Na” we follow it with the saying “Si God na bahala.” (God will take care of it)

Now I am a spiritual man, I have a strong personal relationship with our creator, but when you say verbally and mentally and spiritually, that you leave it all to him and that you don’t have the guts to do something about it, what you are really saying is “whatever happens, it’s on you God.” I specifically remember the saying “DO YOUR BEST AND

GOD WILL DO THE REST!” it never said “PUT IT ALL ON GOD, AND DO NOTHING.” 

“ACTION” no matter how small, when done in a great way and in a great sense of passion and desire, is unstoppable! Respect yourself enough, that you stop relying on someone else to act, and respect life enough, that you stop putting it on everyone else, but yourself, MAN UP! (if you’re a woman the “man up” phrase applies to you too.

#2:IT’S CONTAGIOUS– Remember in school when we’re part of a team project, and after the process of doing that project, when it’s time to pass it to the teacher and the quality of our work was not what we expected it to be, There’s always that one guy that says “BAHALA NA” (what ever happens, happens) and what do the other team members do? they pile on and start consoling each other that “whatever happens, happens, we love this habit of “Bahala na” because it removes the guilt within us when we leave it to someone else like the universe, or god, or the spirits, or your ancestors! and when that feeling is emitted to the world, people around you start to do more of the same, why? because it removes the weight on our shoulders.

CONCLUSION!

We are Filipinos! we have experienced a ton of hell as a country, lost a lot of heroes to the enemies, and we have fought great battles individually, but with our Blood, Our Courage and Our Love for this country, we dug out of hell, eliminated our enemies, and crushed the demons we fight individually, our ability to adapt and summon courage when needed, is what makes us a Filipino, Mediocrity is not in our vocabulary, Let us stop “THE BAHALA NA ATTITUDE”! we don’t need to put it on someone else!we don’t need to rely on other countries to prosper, we will rise!

I am a Pinoy citizen, and I can’t change that, and I don’t what to, the funny kwirks! The weird beliefs! the positive habits! these are what defines us, I wrote this piece not to change what makes us “Pinoy”, but rather to unleash and hopefully spread what the Filipinos really are, a country with more potential! not because of our natural resources, or our beautiful tourist spots, but rather because, we possess what most do not understand,  “HEART”.

HOW I GOT GREAT PAYING JOBS WITH NO DIPLOMA AND ZERO EXPERIENCE

Getting a good job has never been easier, with the sudden rise of job sites and access to offers in the comfort of your own home, wether your a fresh graduate, or someone who wants to start his career right out of highschool! It’s possible.

How I did it

My very first job offer was at 17 years old, and started working the day I turned 18 at a job most would need a college education to achieve, by 19 I already started and failed at 4 different busines ventures, by 20 I became a junior partner of a contract growing business, By 21 I was a associate stock broker, publishing consultant and marketing consultant for authors in the U.S,both of which gave me the opportunity to earn equal to that of a hotel manager in the Philippines, shortly afterwards I was offered to spearhead the Brand management of a beach resort in Cebu, and the Cebu branch of a newly established swim wear company, both of which I turned down to again try my luck in entrepreneurship.

All these opportunities were created by someone with no diploma, no actual experience in the industry, and certainly no refferor to vouch for me.

What you will read are the two most basic yet undoubtedly most important, however! As an individual still miles away from half of what I hope to become, only take from this what is applicable to you, if you find something that you do not agree with, I ask you to simply disregard it.

Learn outside the system

If you have no experience, or one without a college diploma, let me tell you something I have found to be true, as well as what my senior co workers told me, “most of what you’ll be doing you will learn on the job not in school”.

So here’s a simple peice of advice to those with no experience, Become Self Taught! Even before you get the job start learning about the industry you wish to get into, what is required, who are the leaders, what are the trends nowadays etc. Try to ask from people already in that industry, random questions related to that industry, so that when the time comes for your interview, you will actually be able to converse properly, try to bring up topics you didnt learn in school, use phrases like, I was reading the other day, I researched something earlier, From what I understand based on my research, in my personal understanding, etc.

Show that you are different and that you care enough to learn outside your schools system about your industry, this shows you will be easier to teach on the job.

Chances are if you answer based on what you heard in school, your employer has heard the same answer your fellow graduates said.

If you have no diploma, never fear! For I am here! I got a spot in the marketing industry with zero experience, I simply studied it personally and learned all the big words and how to apply it, again as I was saying once you start educating yourself and becoming determined enough to go for it, a piece of paper given by an institution is no longer required.

Guys experience and credentials can be beat by pure hustle! And determination.

So in conclusion, The only way it gets better for you is when you get better!

Bring out your resum’e highlight your skills and objectives, practice your interviews, be confident and most of all don’t take no for an answer!

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CATS VS DOGS AND WHAT IT SAYS ABOUT THEIR OWNERS

Cats Vs Dogs, a rivalry that has been older than the first steam engine, a competition more exciting than Pacquiao versus Mayweather these two beasts have been the main choice for pet owners globally, here’s what owning one says about you.

The Dog lover

Oh what a lovable creature indeed, both loyal and handy, this canine has earned the right to be one of the primary choices as a pet, wether you need something to cuddle with or something to ride into battle, go get yourself a puppy.

Studies show that most dog owners have a hidden desire for affection and security (don’t we all?) or as a result of past bad relationships, a dog just gives us less drama, Dog owners are less likely to suffer from depression than non-pet owners. Even for those people who do become clinically depressed, having a pet to take care of can help them out of a depressive episode. Since taking care of a dog requires a routine and forces you to stay at least a little active, it is harder to stay inside feeling down all the time. The interaction with and love received from a dog can also help people stay positive. Even the mere act of looking at your pet increases the amount of oxytocin, the “feel good” chemical, in the brain.

Or the more likely scenario, you’re just too lazy to get the paper or bark at suspicious individuals.

The Cat enthusiast

His majesty the “cat”, once said to rule over egypt, and hold dominion over the underworld or something like that, the cat most definitely should be at the top of the List, unless you want to be scratched to death while you sleep.

Cat people score higher in intelligence and are more intellectually curious.

That’s what a study of 600 college students by Denise Guastello and colleagues found, while also re-confirming earlier findings that dog lovers are more outgoing and lively. This suggests that you want your realtor to be a dog person for sure. But those preferring felines—while more introverted—are more sensitive and open-minded. Additionally, this study did not find them to be more neurotic. They also tend to be more non-conformist—perhaps echoing the independence for which cats are famous—and score higher on intelligence tests. (Does that mean my shift to the cat camp means I’m getting smarter? I hope so.)

This study also found that the motives for having a pet were different for cat and dog aficionados—38% of dog lovers were looking for companionship, while 45.6% of cat lovers wanted affection.

Anyways whether your a cat person or a dog person, one thing is common to both, and that’s we’re one with the world and that the world is one with us, well that is until the cat starts its master plan of world domination, Hail Cat!

Which do you prefer cat’s or dog’s? let me know in the comments section, don’t forget to like and follow this blog!

THE GOLDEN BUDDHA

Back in 1957 a group of monks from a monastery had to relocate a clay Buddha from their temple to a new location. The monastery was to be relocated tomake room for the development of a highway through Bangkok. When the crane begin to lift the giant idol, the weight of it was so tremendous that it began to crack. What’s more, rain began to fall. The head monk, who was concerned about damage to the sacred Buddha, decided to lower the statue back to the ground and to cover it with a large canvas tarp to protect it from the rain.

Later that evening the head monk went to check if the Buddha was staying dry. As the light reached the crack, he noticed the gleam of light, he wondered if there might be something underneath the clay, he went to fetch a chisel and hammer from the monastery and began to chip away the clay. As he knocked off shards of clay, the little gleam grew brighter and bigger. Many hours of labor went by before the monks stood face with the Extraordinary Gold Buddha.

Historians believe that several hundred years before the head monk’s discovery, the Burmese army was about to invade Thailand, the Siamese monks, realizing that their country would soon be attacked, covered their precious Buddha with an outer covering of clay to keep it form being looted by the  Burmese, unfortunately the monks were all slaughtered, and the well kept secret of the golden Buddha remained intact, until that faithful day in 1957.

We are all like the clay Buddha covered with a shell of hardness created by fear, and yet underneath us is a golden Buddha a golden Christ or a golden essence, which is our real self, and much like the monk with the hammer and chisel, it’s up to us now to discover our true essence once again.

The Busy Loser : Why doing more decreases your chances of winning.

I recently wrote an article about “WORK VS. PLAY” wherein I stated that, “work” or “action” is the primal force that leads to success, I am writing this now to clarify what I just stated, WORK is absolutely required to achieve success, and to even make it clearer here it goes;

ACTION=SUCCESS

GREAT ACTION=GREAT SUCCESS

NO ACTION=NO SUCCESS

WRONG ACTION=FAILURE

ADDICTED TO “BEING BUSY”

On another article I wrote entitled “Lists Everyone Should Have It” I wrote about the “Law Of Attraction” if in anyway you do not know what “L.O.A” is click on the link here. It is said that the way we act is ultimately what we end up becoming, so what most people do is think and think, dream and dream and keep on dreaming and it never becomes a reality! because most of those people tend to forget the “ACTION” part of the equation, now let’s say they do work like hell, let’s say they understand the “NO EAT, NO SLEEP. NO THEM UNTIL I SUCCEED” mentality, however if you rush blindly you might still hit the wall.

People as a whole, love being busy, they think it makes them look cool! I know I was, I used to love making up stuff in order to be busy, I would work a straight 3-hours, then watch a 2-hour movie, or hangout for hours with my friends, it was crazy how much time I was wasting! because we are never really busy! we may think we are, because of the very few time left at the end of the day, but in reality we spent the majority of that time doing nonsense things! then we have the audacity (big word there ha-ha) to say, I’ve been working so hard! How come I’m not winning?”

THE BUSY LOSER

So how do we know when we’re actually doing the wrong things?

Great question! to answer that simply follow the ff. steps:

step#1: WHAT DO YOU WANT- the very first thing you have to do, is to “KNOW” what you really want, this day, this month, this year, and this life! a great philosopher once said, “HOW CAN YOU ARRIVE AT A DESTINATION YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW”, so get that piece of paper and write it down.

step#2: HOW BAD DO YOU WANT IT?- Second is to commit to that “want”, tell yourself right after defining what you want, how much are you willing to sacrifice for it, are you willing to die! for that dream? I know it sounds a little intense, but unless you are not willing to “DIE” literally for your dreams, don’t do it.

here’s a link to another article I wrote, that I know can help deepen your understanding of this step- “NEED VS. WANT“.

Concluding step: After defining what you want, and how bad you want it, live the remaining years of your life only for the service of that dream and for the people that dream will affect, may it be your family, your children, the world! because if you don’t make that dream of yours a reality, then no one else will.

So the next time you find yourself doing something, and you’re not sure if that action is contributing to your success or your failure, pull yourself aside and tell yourself this: Is what I’m doing now, this very second, in the service of my dreams?

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